Six Helpful Tips To Determine If Your Booty Call Is Boyfriend Material

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October 5, 2015

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Author, producer, actress CiCi Foster gave some excellent tips on How to know if your booty call is boyfriend material. One important thing she didn’t make clear; however, is knowing when a man is playing mind games just to get the goodies. Some sexual escapades are mutual. And it’s one thing catching feeling after having good sex, but what is a girl to do when she’s being led on to believe that’s not all it is?

How do you know whether a man is being sincere or not about what he whispers in your ears? The answer should be quite simple. Action speaks louder than words. If at anytime it all seems too good to be true, chances are, it is. Unfortunately, it’s not always that simple. Some men are so good at telling lies, making them sound so good, you just want to believe it even when you have several doubts. The question you must ask yourself is: Are you willing to accept the fact that what you have may not be real? If not, whose fault is it when the situation turns bad?

As Foster pointed out, good sex alone can be a powerful drug, and can cause many women to believe their bedmate is their soul mate. Add mind games to the equation and you have a real problem on your hands. Foster’s helpful tips can be used in either case. She notes that Before you start fantasizing about your sexy mandingo being your man, be sure that you are not blinded by the good sex you are having and start learning who the man really is to determine if you truly want more than what his ‘package’ offers.

1. Know what you are looking for in a potential mate. Write at least 10 of the most important qualities you want and need in a mate. Once you know what you want, you will know it when you see it.

2. Start going on dates and spending quality time together. The more time you spend outside of the bedroom, the more you will get to see the guy’s true character. If he cancels dates regularly, seems preoccupied, or does not give you attention or treat you well, you will know that he is not the one for you. (Extra tip: During this time, be sure to date other men so you won’t be so focused on him.)

3. Focus on his actions and your intuition-Many men looking for sex won’t devote time in dating you, or if they do, they won’t be consistent. You will know if he is boyfriend material by the way he treats you. He will be attentive and ask to take you out. He will not look at other women and you will get his undivided attention. Focus also on how you feel when you are with him. Listen to your heart, not your throbbing cookie! If you feel good around him and about him and his actions are consistent and sincere, he may be a keeper!

4. If you begin dating on a regular basis and you realize you like the man beyond his ‘package,’ be authentic. Express your true expectations and find out if he is open to being exclusive or just wants to keep hooking up. If there is no interest, know that you cannot change someone into who you want them to be. Accept the fact that he only wants sex and move on with someone who wants a relationship. No matter how good the sex is or how tight your goodies are, you cannot make a man commit to you.

5. If your lover is interested in becoming your man, continue to date him regularly, but don’t ask for a relationship too quickly. If you ask for a relationship too quickly, you will seem desperate and men like confidence, not neediness. Give the relationship time to blossom. Make sure you are communicating over the phone several times a week. Contrary to popular belief, texting does not make up for real dialogue! Make sure you are communicating over the phone a few times per week. This helps you and your man to connect and is the sign of a real relationship.

6. After a few months of dating, see where the relationship is going and re-establish new rules for your relationship. In order to move completely beyond being just a booty call, you must give your potential boyfriend new rules to follow to secure the relationship you desire. Tell him your expectations; what you will and won’t accept and make the commitment to the relationship. It is important that both people are on the same page and truly want to be in a relationship. I cannot stress this enough. If you find yourself doing the majority of the calling, texting, or are just getting lip service, it may mean your man isn’t truly committed to you. Have honest, open dialogue and if he doesn’t measure up, he was meant to be your booty call and not your man.

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